When you live long and deep enough you eventually encounter sonder, the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own, and begin noticing flaws, ambitions and insecurities in others that remind you of yourself. When you do, entertain doubt and ask yourself: What makes me, me? Is who I am now who I want to be? How much of who I will become depends on me? Why am I here? You probably won’t have convincing answers to these questions the first time around and that’s alright because this discontentment with your inability to do so will bring clarity and progress. The more you grapple with yourself the quicker anxiety will give way to self-control.